Tips for Parents
Children and Culture
Author Susan Ragsdale, from parentfurther.com gives us some great tips on how to be more culturally aware and accepting.
Tips for parents with children under the age of 5
· Give them opportunities to be around others. Kids in this age group are fearless. Having your child around others and showing (or practicing) your comfort level with all kinds of people sets the stage for acceptance. For example, one father, George Hovaness Donigian, recommends you take your child with you to a variety of festivals or events. Take them and say, “We’re going to meet some people who grew up in a world different than ours. They may dress differently, eat different foods, and speak a different language. And if we’re lucky, we may hear them speak it, and then we can ask them about it.”
· Build an eclectic music library. One easy way to explore the best of other cultures is through music. From lullabies from around the world to musical series, you can take your family on a music tour around the world without leaving home through Putumayo, a site dedicated to introducing people to the world’s music.
· Read from an assortment of books. When reading to your child and teaching her how to read, pull from a variety of books and authors to introduce the rich, diverse world we live in and how we differ.
Tips for parents with children ages 6 to 9
· Teach them to be respectful in learning names. Don’t take the shortcut and “Americanize” a name. Teach your child to say it correctly. Let the person know you want your child to say his name the right way, and ask him to say it slowly and repeat it if necessary.
· Diversify your holidays. Consider various ways to diversify your holidays. Perhaps you can try a new custom, play a cultural game, or explore how another culture celebrates holidays (such as the lighting of the Menorah candles).
Tips for parents with children ages 10 to 15
· Use food as a way to learn about other cultures and traditions. Look at how homes take a common food, like rice, and make it in different ways. Spice it up at home with different recipes and verbalize the connections to the cultures who make rice that way. You can also hit up different booths at festivals, or go out and experiment – try new foods (sushi, noodles, eat with chop sticks).
· Teach them to stay curious and to show interest. Teach your child to find ways to ask questions that open up a door to get to know the person. For example, when meeting someone new you could ask, “Where does your family come from? What is your heritage?” Or when asking how to pronounce a name, you can follow up with asking if their name has a story or meaning.
· Maintain a “see people as people” philosophy. One mom of a multicultural family, Kathy, says that the very first lesson she wanted her children to learn from her was that they choose who they are, and that who they are on the inside is what counts. She recommends that parents teach their children the vital truth that “people are people.”
· Seek the humor. When misunderstandings happen (a mispronounced name, a seemingly naive question), teach your children to find the humor in the situation. Sometimes it’s best to take things lightly. Be open, have conversations, and don’t be afraid to ask questions or seek to understand where someone else is coming from.
· Model acceptance and openness. Create an “open door” policy at home. Open your doors to multiple people from different walks of life. When your teen sees that you are okay with people who are different from you and that you are willing to learn from them, it goes a long way to sending a message of acceptance and tolerance.
· Too much to have an “open door” house? Tone it down. Invite just one friend who gives you a cultural connection. Even having that one person’s perspective opens up the world that much more. It might be that your child will make a connection, or it might be your family as a whole. Be open to befriending others and be open to learning!
· Above all else, be sincere! If you have biases or prejudices, your teenagers will pick up on it so be sure to deal with your own “stuff.”
Tips for parents with children ages 16 to 18
· Teach them to ask questions and not just assume. Sometimes language is the only barrier between people; it’s not intelligence, just language. Pictures, gestures, and a sense of humor can help greatly when working to overcome language barriers. And don’t forget: just because someone has an accent doesn’t mean you have to speak louder or more slowly to him. Don’t assume! For example, one mom, Meredith, tries to teach her kids not to assume anything about customs. At their school, some girls wear head covers. She encourages her girls to seek to understand why they wear them by asking questions: What does it mean? Why do you wear one? Do you even have an option to not wear it?
· Encourage your child to learn a language other than his own. “When you speak one language, you are one man; speaking two languages makes you two men,” says Nerses Kamajian, an Armenian grandfather. Being able to speak more than one language opens up a door to new friends and new possibilities.
· Challenge your child to explore more about other cultures than just the foods. Invite them to find something different that appeals to them about the culture – a custom, a game, a ritual. Later, share together what you learned, experienced, and liked.
· Give them the gift of an immersion experience. The most wonderful gift we can give our children is an immersion experience so that they become aware that “our” culture is not the only culture AND that other people share similar concerns as us, but from different experiences and perspectives.
· Be a tourist in your own town. Go to ethnic grocery stores, visit mosques, museums, or attend services from a different culture/religion, etc. Visit, learn, explore.
· Check out local inter-faith groups that sponsor week-long (or longer) service or cultural trips to other regions of the country or to other countries. For example, living on an American Indian reservation for a week, or going on a Habitat for Humanity trip to Mexico. Living with a different culture is an impactful way to help people become sensitive to others and develop empathy.
Here are some more links on how to nurture culture diversity.